详见 www.kaixin.com

前几个月常收到开心网的邀请，最近安生了，这又来了一个。

不过，域名挺专业，倒搞得正版开心网像山寨的了。反正我抵制开心网，干脆连同山寨版一起抵制了吧。

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发信人: xoXox (喷喷{脸像一个大饼}), 信区: NewExpress
标  题: 大家要小心一种叫做cih的新病毒
发信站: 水木社区 (Mon Nov 24 00:15:50 2008), 站内
   我昨天得了，把我的bios数据都烧了，幸好我c盘有备份恢复了，这种病毒我查了一
下是台湾的一个人做的，很厉害，大家要小心。请把这个帖子转发给你认识的每一个朋
友，再看看你的qq是不是变成太阳了，谢谢。

看到这个帖子就像坐上了时光机器。1998年，一切尚是未知的一年。展开在一丁面前的是无限的可能性。

某一种寂寞。。。

Please notice that I didn’t file it under “funny”.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/rss/index.php?term=pto-20030823-000001&print=1

Is your procrastination hindering you? Ten things you should know.

By: Hara Estroff Marano

There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most sure-fire just might be procrastination. Procrastinators sabotage themselves. They put obstacles in their own path. They actually choose paths that hurt their performance.

Why would people do that? I talked to two of the world's leading experts on procrastination: Joseph Ferrari, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at De Paul University in Chicago, and Timothy Pychyl, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada. Neither one is a procrastinator, and both answered my many questions immediately.

1. Twenty percent of people identify themselves as chronic procrastinators. For them procrastination is a lifestyle, albeit a maladaptive one. And it cuts across all domains of their life. They don't pay bills on time. They miss opportunities for buying tickets to concerts. They don't cash gift certificates or checks. They file income tax returns late. They leave their Christmas shopping until Christmas eve.
2. It's not trivial, although as a culture we don't take it seriously as a problem. It represents a profound problem of self-regulation. And there may be more of it in the U.S. than in other countries because we are so nice; we don't call people on their excuses ("my grandmother died last week") even when we don't believe them.
3. Procrastination is not a problem of time management or of planning. Procrastinators are not different in their ability to estimate time, although they are more optimistic than others. "Telling someone who procrastinates to buy a weekly planner is like telling someone with chronic depression to just cheer up," insists Dr. Ferrari.
4. Procrastinators are made not born. Procrastination is learned in the family milieu, but not directly. It is one response to an authoritarian parenting style. Having a harsh, controlling father keeps children from developing the ability to regulate themselves, from internalizing their own intentions and then learning to act on them. Procrastination can even be a form of rebellion, one of the few forms available under such circumstances. What's more, under those household conditions, procrastinators turn more to friends than to parents for support, and their friends may reinforce procrastination because they tend to be tolerant of their excuses.
5. Procrastination predicts higher levels of consumption of alcohol among those people who drink. Procrastinators drink more than they intend to—a manifestation of generalized problems in self-regulation. That is over and above the effect of avoidant coping styles that underlie procrastination and lead to disengagement via substance abuse.
6. Procrastinators tell lies to themselves. Such as, "I'll feel more like doing this tomorrow." Or "I work best under pressure." But in fact they do not get the urge the next day or work best under pressure. In addition, they protect their sense of self by saying "this isn't important." Another big lie procrastinators indulge is that time pressure makes them more creative. Unfortunately they do not turn out to be more creative; they only feel that way. They squander their resources.
7. Procrastinators actively look for distractions, particularly ones that don't take a lot of commitment on their part. Checking e-mail is almost perfect for this purpose. They distract themselves as a way of regulating their emotions such as fear of failure.
8. There's more than one flavor of procrastination. People procrastinate for different reasons. Dr. Ferrari identifies three basic types of procrastinators:
   • arousal types, or thrill-seekers, who wait to the last minute for the euphoric rush.
   • avoiders, who may be avoiding fear of failure or even fear of success, but in either case are very concerned with what others think of them; they would rather have others think they lack effort than ability.
   • decisional procrastinators, who cannot make a decision. Not making a decision absolves procrastinators of responsibility for the outcome of events.
9. There are big costs to procrastination. Health is one. Just over the course of a single academic term, procrastinating college students had such evidence of compromised immune systems as more colds and flu, more gastrointestinal problems. And they had insomnia. In addition, procrastination has a high cost to others as well as oneself; it shifts the burden of responsibilities onto others, who become resentful. Procrastination destroys teamwork in the workplace and private relationships.
10. Procrastinators can change their behavior—but doing so consumes a lot of psychic energy. And it doesn't necessarily mean one feels transformed internally. It can be done with highly structured cognitive behavioral therapy.

Psyched for Success, 23 August 2003
Last Reviewed 1 Oct 2008
Article ID: 2711

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我从来不关心自己还有多少花费，一般就是没钱了往里加500，或者要出差了事先充到500。结果今天上午在公司想打同事手机，居然发现让我拨10086。

还好我前两天刚刚去过上海移动网站，知道现在可以通过umpay给手机充值，嘿嘿，有网络真方便。于是赶紧上网，一番折腾后来到招商银行的网站，一切填好后被告知需要短信认真（哪怕只充50块）。然而我已经被停机了。。。